We recommend using The Coaching Game as a professional tool, with one or more players in one or more
of the following situations:
• When you want to infuse a breath of fresh air, fun, and spice into a process
• When you want to bypass the logic of the client, and broaden his or her present point of view
• When you observe that the client finds it difficult to express him-or herself, and you sense blockage
or stuckness, the game aids in articulating issues and feelings s/he may not have words to express.
In such a case, you can pull out the game spontaneously, and let it gently “peel back the layers”.
Following is an example from among infinite possibilities for working with The Coaching Game
one on one professionally:
1. The client defines an issue that s/he would like to explore.
Example: delving into her and her partner’s relationship as a couple.
What’s the current situation? What would s/he like it to be? What has to happen to bridge the present situation
and the desired situation? (click here to download a map of the process - Ideal & Reality)
2. Tell the client that s/he’s about to undergo the process experientially, in an unusual way. Take the cards out
of the package and spread them out between you face up (click here to read about the face-down option).
3. Instruct the client to take five minutes, and to choose three cards:
a. A card that reflects her present situation in her relationship
b. A card that reflects her desired situation in her relationship
c. A card that reflects what needs to happen to bridge the two
While the client is choosing her cards, we observe her and the choosing process:
Observe which cards her gaze rests on, whether it’s easy or hard for her to choose, and her facial expression
and body language.
4. When the client has chosen, focus on the first card, letting her explain why she chose it, i.e., because of a word
that caught her eye? The photo? Which other cards were candidates? How does this card relate to her relationship
with her partner? How does the card manifest itself in that relationship?
Repeat with the other two cards chosen.
5. While talking about the card with the client, suggest to her that s/he open the Coaching Book to the
corresponding page and read aloud what’s written there (or you can read). The texts in the book will give you
additional points of view on each card, thereby sharpening the connection between the chosen cards and the
chosen topic. (her relationship with her partner)
6. After the client has given her point of view on the cards s/he chose, and after you’ve read the corresponding text
in the Coaching Book (optional), you can give your point of view on:
a. The cards s/he chose and how you believe they actually relate to his or her opinion on the relationship with his
or her partner
b. Her card-choosing process, including the cards s/he rejected
c. The cards you would have chosen for her
d. …anything else you wish to add
7. At the end of the process, give the client a few minutes to contemplate the process and to write on the Coaching
Ticket Notepad 1) the significant insight gained from the process, and 2) what s/he plans to do in order to bridge
between the present situation and the desired situation:
a. In the upcoming 24 hours
b. In the upcoming week
c. In the upcoming month
When s/he’s finished writing, ask her to read what s/he wrote aloud, and guide her in clarifying her insight and
commitment to what’s written on her Coaching Ticket. For more information on using the Coaching Ticket
Notepad, click here.
As soon as you experience using The Coaching Game, it’s easy to invent more games and processes.
You’re invited to contact us for ideas and suggestions.
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